Our society is not a fan of anything that has to do with waiting or hoping. Life is all about immediate satisfaction, relationships are microwaved into premature intimacy, and the art of patience is taboo. But it is a common truth that lasting things like relationships come only through patience. Your heart will navigate so many experiences in life, and they will all have a say in who you become as a woman. There is no need to rush any experience because of the misplaced notion that you’re not really a woman unless you have a foot long list of past relationships. The Bible says that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing. As a wife one day, it is our hope that you will be stunning, and we know that this is a hope you share also. But in order to be that amazing wife, you have to allow time and experience to develop you. Relationships are sticky business, but if you wait for the right time, if you allow the people and experiences around you add dimension and depth to your life, you will be far better equipped to handle relationships when they come knocking. And waiting is also important because it takes time to know not only when it is time to commit to relationships, but also to know who is that right person. We all dream of our princes and knights, but how will they ever find us if we’re always running around trying to orchestrate our own daring rescue? The maids wait. They work, they pour into people around them, they develop their own character and perspective, they connect with God, who is Love, and they practice the art of patience.
Don’t groan.
Learning to wait is not a license to boredom. That’s because while we wait, we learn to fan the flames of hope. True love surely waits, but love also hopes. While I’m writing this, I’m 20 and a half years old, and I’ve never had a relationship. Sometimes I think I’m ready, other times, I listen to my friends talk about their relationships and wonder “when?” It’s tough waiting sometimes, but the waiting is not half so hard as long as I have the fire of hope burning in my heart. I firmly believe there IS someone out there waiting and searching and hoping for me too. And I believe he’ll find me, but the minute I give up hoping for a Godly and beautiful romance, I lose a part of my spark. I go into hiding, it’s like a part of me dies. No. Plan your wedding. Draw out your dress. Dream of your first romantic date. Those are all good things at the right time and with the honor of Godly foundations and they deserve a daydream or two.
Espero is all about the celebration of waiting for good things because we believe every woman is worth waiting for. It’s about hoping for romance and relationship. And it’s about becoming the powerful, captivating women now, then, and always.
