Sighs and More Sighs
I admit.
I can become impatient. And I was impatient just a few days ago. I thought by now, almost 21 that God would have allowed my life to encounter more experiences in the realm of romance and relationships with guys than He has. Silly as it sounds, I have my “expectanctancy” of what God is supposed to do and by what age. It’s so easy to allow impatience and worry to carry us away. And my perspective is wrong. It is wrong to try and hold God up to expectancies especially when we’re doing nothing but comparing them to the standards around us-standards that are mostly not Godly. And if our “standard” is Godly, then we should stop being jealous of the plan God has for this life and allow Him to create our own. But whatever our justification, the bottom line is that we have ideas and when our ideas and our realities slam down and shatter, we realize them as fantasies and then it is very easy to become impatient. Girls, it’s time to let the sighs and the worry fly away…
Lesser Value
The danger of holding God up to a fantasical future is that we forget to believe and trust that He has a plan for our lives. We also set ourselves up to be disappointed and hurt unnecessarily. But probably worse than all of these is the “fiddling thumbs sighing while she gazes out of the window” syndrome. This is an attitude of impatience and restlessness that can lead to a dissatisfaction in God and the creation of our own realities. When we as women fail to completely trust God, we become convinced that our plan really is a good one, and maybe we start to paint it as God’s will, while deep down inside we know that it’s not. This type of satisfaction though is rooted in a deeper concept, one that has to do with a lost value for your heart. When we become impatient, we lose a sense of value for our hearts and as a result it is easier to rush into emotional ties and relational committments that undermine the value of our hearts and our womanhood that God has given us.
Embrace the Wait
God will have you wait until you are completely dependent on Him. He doesn’t want there to be anything between you and Him. You must recognize that your heart is immeasurably valuable to God and He is not interested in you placing it just anywhere. There is no way around the forming process. The beauty is that He will also have an equally forming process for the man that is right for you. The point as a woman of many doors is to take your eyes off of a romantical relationship as the ultimate goal for your life and to embrace the wait. Embrace the process, embrace the trials and the experiences that God brings into your life and trust that He will write a beautiful story of your life that may include a man, but most importantly it will be a story that serves to bring attention and glory to Him.
You’re Worth It
Waiting is hard, but never for a moment think that you are worth anything less than God’s timing. When the time for relationships come around, don’t be hasty or anxious. Allow the relationship to develop but do so with a healthy esteem for your heart and for the God who is it’s King. You are worth every drop of sweat and every ounce of effort. Never settle for anything less.
